Good dirty talk can rev up your relationship like nothing else. If you’re ready to learn, you’ve come to the right place!
From the very beginning of our lives, our words are anticipated. The smallest “coo” when we are babies is listened to with baited breath. That first giggle is often enough to provoke gales of laughter and maybe even tears of pride.
At some point, we realize that our sounds can give us what we want. Babies quickly learn that if they cry about something, Mommy and Daddy will be there to take care of the problem. One of the first things we learn is the power behind our voices!
Then we begin to talk. Oh, what a glorious day that is! Parents and doctors wait anxiously for that first comment, and when it comes, it’s cause for celebration. They call friends with the good news, tell strangers at the grocery store, and break out the video camera. Our first words are show-stoppers.
But somewhere along the way, those fantastic words become commonplace, and the magic disappears. Discovering new words becomes a non-event. Even learning a new language isn’t all that impressive. After all, everyone does it. Learning a new language has become the trendy thing to do.
But there is a different language, one that only seasoned adults can handle. It’s the language of love. More specifically, the language of lust.
It’s the language of dirty talk.
It’s all about taboo phrases, naughty curse words, and innuendo that would make a porn star blush. It’s all about making your partner anticipate what comes next. It’s about making him so eager, so hot, so turned on, that a single word from you can tip him over the edge of desire. With an ear for adventure and an open mind, you can have him hanging on every word.
There was a time when you learned that your voice and your words had the power to move people. Your words had the power to get what you wanted, and to get it fast. Now that you’re an adult, you have that same power, just ready to be discovered all over again. Your dirty talk can give you what you want in bed — you just have to learn the language.
Read on and find out how. You know you want to!
Dirty Talk Doesn’t Have To Be Filthy (excerpt from chapter 4)
When you hear the words “dirty talk,” what is your first response? What do you see in the back of your mind?
Chances are when you think of dirty talk, your first thought is something you’ve seen out of a porn film. It’s over the top, maybe a bit embarrassing. Maybe it’s so “out there” that you can’t imagine doing in your own bedroom. On the other hand, maybe it’s so filthy that it turns you on, and that in itself makes you feel a little…well, filthy.
You might remember a scene or two of a woman talking nonstop in the dirtiest language she could muster. Maybe even thinking about it makes you blush. But maybe it turns you on at the same time.
When you first begin to explore dirty talk, you’re venturing into an area that has often been considered taboo. No matter how open-minded you are, there might be times when you feel a bit uncomfortable. But some would argue that a sign of really good dirty talk is that it makes you squirm in your seat! After all, if everything about sex were comfortable, what would be exciting about it?
Dirty talk in that porn movie might be over-the-top and corny. But the dirty talk you will learn through this book won’t sound corny at all — it will sound sexy, sophisticated, and oh-so hot.
In other words, don’t try to compete with that porn star. They are reading a script, being fed their lines, and real life is not like that. In real life, you can be sexier than any porn star! It takes some time to get there, however, so take things slow and start with the basics.
First of all, dirty talk doesn’t have to be filthy. You can show your pleasure – and rev his engine to redline – with the sounds you make. When you moan in pleasure, it tells him he’s doing something right. When you groan as he enters you, you’re telling him how much you like the way he feels inside you. The way you sigh when you close your eyes and give in to the sensation can make him feel like a king.
The sounds you make, whether it be groaning or screaming or simply heavy breathing, will tell him volumes about how you feel and what you want him to do.
The tone of your voice goes a long way, too. When you whisper in his ear, your voice will be roughened and deepened by the passion you feel. That’s a natural response of your body to his. There’s not a single thing fake about that sound that comes from your mouth, and your lover will recognize it immediately, in the way that the most primal passions unfold.
Though sweet romantic words and hardcore raunchy ones both have their place, sometimes just whispering a sexy word can be much more effective than just belting it out in the midst of passion. Saying how much you love the way he touches you is good, but murmuring it into his ear is better. Drop little kisses down his chest while you whisper that you want to taste him. Simple words, nothing raunchy – but the way they are said, with the sultry tone of your voice, is enough to light up all his dials.