Okay Ladies and Gents, this week I’m going to step away from the sex topic directly and hit on something a little more down to earth and common. Housecleaning! Yes that’s right, if you’re a couple you know that housecleaning is going to come up. He didn’t take the garbage out. She didn’t clean the kitchen. You know those little thoughts that sneak in and make us treat our partners like little children who haven’t done their chores? Today I’m going to give you a list of things you should never ever say to your partner when it comes to house cleaning!
 

1. “Didn’t I tell you to _______?” Or even worse “Didn’t I tell you NOT to ______?” Your partner isn’t your child it doesn’t matter what you told them, they are adults and will make their own decisions.
2. “I won’t clean the sink after you shave and leave hairs in it.” Or any other sort of “I won’t” statement because that could then be turned around on you. All of us have one bad habit or another. Just rinse the sink and go on about your business or the next time you leave an open shampoo bottle in the shower your partner may not worry if it gets knocked off and runs down the drain.
3. “That’s not my job”.  Okay you aren’t 10 anymore, you don’t have assigned chores and responsibilities- you both live there you both should do a little bit of everything to keep the home running smoothly.
4. “You were off today, why isn’t the house clean and dinner ready?” Prepare to be hit by a flying shoe if you dare to state this question in this manner. Go with a neutral question like “Did you have a good day off?”
5. “Do it THIS way”. Does it really matter how the bathroom gets cleaned as long as it does? Will the bed being made differently keep you from sleeping in it? NOOOO, so just be happy that someone else is doing the job and don’t supervise.

I know that you may think this list has nothing to do with sex, but let me tell you it does!  Have you ever pissed your partner off over housecleaning and been cut off for a night or two? Worked yourself into a snit over an overflowing garbage can and gave your partner the silent treatment instead of simply taking out the trash? Then you know that as wrong as it is sex is directly related to how we feel about our partners at any given time, so if the housekeeping isn’t up to par there are likely to be problems in the bedroom!

Okay ladies, today it’s your turn to find out what you should not ever say to your boyfriend. Sure they are guys and they can take a lot before it bothers them, but you should always treat the person you love with respect. Keep in mind that your guy has feelings too and no matter how much you want things your way a relationship involves compromise, communication and honesty.

“If you don’t ________ then I guess we won’t be having sex tonight!” Oh ladies, sex is not a bargaining chip. You can’t punish him by withholding sex and if you do you may be left with no one to have sex with!

“You’re the man, you should be supporting me!” I hate to break it to you but this little thing called women’s lib has made that statement almost as offensive as its counterpart concerning “women’s work”, you are an adult you are responsible for supporting yourself and in a relationship each of you should be contributing as equally as possible.

“There are lots of guys who want to be with me.” Well yeah, there may be. But you are in a relationship with someone that apparently you want to be with instead of all the other guys. Don’t hold your possibilities over his head because he could do the same. After all if you want him don’t you suppose there are other women who want to be with him too? Value your relationship and if you have to use that line, make sure you follow it up with how happy you are to have him instead of all those others.

“I have a headache!” It’s time you understand that a headache isn’t’ a valid excuse because orgasm is known to cure headaches. But also because it’s an excuse that doesn’t address the real reason you’re turning him down. Be honest, if you don’t want to then just say “I’m not in the mood right now.”

Being kind, loving and respectful of your partner is the best way to make sure that your relationship lasts. You are a modern woman who has lots of possibilities whether it’s your career or your love life, but without love and without a supportive loving partner how satisfying will those possibilities be?

Men may be macho and they may not tell you just how much your comments can hurt them but put yourself in his shoes and consider how you’d feel before you say something offhandedly that could hurt him.

So, your friend has set you up on a blind date. You feel weird and creeped out about meeting someone you don’t know in a date situation. There are a few ways to handle a blind date, even if you don’t want to go on the date in the first place. Simply avoid these pitfalls in order to have a great blind date even if it isn’t with your soul mate.

Don’t fall for the description given to you by the friend who set you up. More than likely you aren’t going to meet Prince Charming. Go in with low expectations and really see the person you are meeting. If he is Prince Charming that’s great. Even if he’s not you won’t be disappointed and will be able to have a pleasant evening anyway.

Don’t go all out on the wardrobe and make up, it’s a blind date. The person meeting you will probably not be expecting the sex bomb of his dreams. Be you so that you don’t intimidate a less confident date and so that you can just relax and enjoy the date without constantly needing to look in the mirror.

Conversation is a bit difficult with someone you just met. Take the time to get past the small talk and actually talk about things you both enjoy, even if that’s nothing more than running down the friend who set this up! Common ground allows you both to relax and enjoy the conversation even if you aren’t attracted to one another.

Blind dates can be a pain, you pretty much know that you aren’t going to meet your happily ever after on a blind date, but you can have a nice time and maybe make a friends. On the off chance that you do meet “the one” on a blind date just imagine the fun your friend who set you up will have crowing about her success at picking the perfect date! Don’t forget that setting up blind dates goes both ways so if your friend blundered, big time you can always get your revenge!

A bad blind date isn’t the end of the world, just go with the flow, try to make the best of it and be a nice date.

While you may think of phone sex as something that is only done when you are far apart and unable to actually have sex, phone sex is actually a very vital part of a sexual relationship and can be used to improve your sex life tremendously.

Suppose your lover is at work and you are at home thinking of all the fun things you want to do later in the evening. Why keep all those details to yourself? Call him up and tell him all about where and how you want to touch him. Tell him to find someplace where he can be alone for a few minutes and ask him to touch himself for you, and to tell you how it feels. Your hands can wander too as you tell him all the great things you can do to yourself until he gets there. Just a quick phone sex session in the afternoon will have him anticipating a hot sex session until he arrives.

This may lead to some living room floor sex, or being taken up against the wall. Phone sex lets you interject some passion, some anticipation and a few hours’ worth of foreplay into the day just by spending 5 minutes on the phone. Sure you can have sex anytime you want if your lover is close by or lives with you, but sometimes the sex on demand thing can get a bit boring. Bring back the excitement with phone sex and the waiting game.

He will spend the rest of his day at work wondering which toys you are playing with, whether you are in the tub shaving and grooming for him, or whether you are masturbating as you think about sex with him later. Just remember the next time you go grocery shopping don’t be surprised if your cell rings and he has you trembling with excitement as you move through the aisles. Turnabout is fair play and if you can turn his humdrum work day into a sex filled fantasy then he can do the same for your errands.

Phone sex is enticing, it’s exciting and it’s fun, you can be as bold and naughty as you want on the phone, even going so far as to bring on the real dirty talk that is usually reserved for the wildest of sexual encounters. Let your imagination run wild and share every possible scenario with your lover over the phone to re-ignite the sexual flame!

There are probably thousands of examples out there when it comes to dirty talk phrases. The problem is, many of us don’t want to take textbook examples and recite them while in bed. Wouldn’t it be so much better to find out the perfect way to come up with the perfect dirty talk on your own? Well, there is. And it really only boils down to one thing:
 
We all just want to hear about how awesome we are.
 
No, really. It might sound a little narcissistic or shallow, but what more could you ever want to hear from your significant other than how amazing you are, how good you are at something, or how hot you look and how good you feel? It’s a huge ego boost! If you focus your dirty talk on telling them what you see and feel as a result of their actions, and the rest will flow like magic. Plus, isn’t seeing your partner in intense pleasure one of the best parts of sex? Here are a few suggestions:
 

• “Your naked body feels incredible pressed against me.”
• “I love the feeling I get when your cock slides inside me.”
• “You’re so good at licking my pussy, I love it.”
• “It feels so good to ride your cock when you hold me tight.”

 
Men also love feeling you orgasm, and get extreme pleasure in seeing and feeling you get off. Don’t be shy about it, let him know you’re going to cum and tell him what to do. If you want him to go slower, harder, faster, let him know! Chances are, he’s going to do whatever you ask, and he’s going to love doing it. If you’re shy and don’t make a peep when you’re about to get off, he’s probably going to be bummed and it’ll be harder for him to finish if he didn’t get to experience it happening to you. You love the feeling of getting him off, so make sure he enjoys it just as much when it’s your turn. You will see an ego boost!

You’ve probably explored some of your sexual fantasies while masturbating, but have you ever discussed fantasies with your lover? If you haven’t then you don’t know what you’re missing. Initially when you bring up fantasies the conversation can lead to explosive sex filled with intensity, as you both venture into dirty talk and use expressions that you may have held back.  Sharing your sexual fantasies can also lead to fantasy role playing.
 
Once you know what some of your partner’s fantasies are, it can be easy to make them come true with a little bit of preparation and a willingness to introduce fun into your sex life.  If your man has a fantasy of a dominating bitch who will make him do what he is told, you can provide him the chance to be submissive as you step it up with your outfit, props and behavior. This is the perfect opportunity to get in touch with your own aggression and you can work on your dirty talk, really opening up and getting into the role of satisfying your lover’s fantasy.  Tell him he’s a weak and sorry excuse for a man and that he isn’t even worthy of licking your boots until he proves himself!
 
Dirty talk, using accents, props, clothing and even décor in the room are all part of introducing a role playing fantasy. When your guy walks in and finds you dressed up as his favorite fantasy, he will slip seamlessly into his role and you will get to spend some time as the sexy nurse to his dirty doctor, instead of just plain Bill and Sue.  Fantasy role playing is part of a healthy sex life. It can not only bring you closer to your lover, it can also provide excitement when things get a little humdrum in the bedroom, and it gives each of you the chance to explore your sexuality and imagination while sharing with each other.
 
There is no shame in having fantasies that aren’t specifically about your partner, and an inspired lover will find ways to bring your fantasy to life. So get started on making your fantasies come true by introducing them in the bedroom through dirty talk.