Giving good dirty talk to your boyfriend is easier than you think! It doesn’t involve fancy tricks or having the mind of a phone sex operator. Talking dirty to your boyfriend is a matter of knowing him well, finding out what turns him on, and being uninhibited when the time comes to get hot between the sheets.
How do you know what your boyfriend likes? The easiest route is to simply ask him. He might tell you quite a bit – but he might be tongue-tied and not know how to convey what he really wants. So you might have to rely on what he shows you through his actions. Does he look at women’s feet when they walk by? He might have a foot fetish. Does he get riled up when he sees a woman with two men on a movie screen? He might be into threesomes. Does he like to visit strip clubs with his buddies? Then you already know he likes to see women dancing seductively!
Use those things you know about your boyfriend to come up with things to talk about in bed. For example, if he loves the thought of threesomes, you can paint the picture in his mind. Start by telling him that you’re going to spell out a fantasy for him, and keep up your usual bedroom activities while you talk to him. When you mention a woman going down on him, do it! Suggest that someone else is watching you and waiting for her turn. Then gauge his reaction – if the scenario drives him wild, you know you’ve found something that trips his sensual trigger.
Keep in mind that dirty talk should be fluid – you should be able to change with the moment. If he’s not into a particular fantasy, immediately drop that line of dirty talk and go with something else. Asking him questions in the heat of passion can help move things along. Something as simple as “Do you like that?” sounds even better when it’s delivered with a compliment of sorts – “Do you like that, you hot stud?” When he tells you he does like it, ask him what he likes best about it.
You can also try the comparison questions…”Do you like it when I do this, or when I do this?” Vary what you are doing – the pace, the pressure, or the position – and listen to what he tells you. You can even turn the comparison questions into a game until you hit on the one thing that obviously works better than anything else.
Talking dirty to your boyfriend can be fun and interesting – and if he’s willing to talk back, it can be quite informative! The more you know about him, the better your dirty talk experience will be.
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